An article in the G&M today expresses concerns with the "hookup culture" of university students. There's a big fear that casual sex will create "a drastic divide between physical intimacy and emotional intimacy," and that people will see human bodies as disposable and "become incapable of creating 'valuable and real connections'." The author goes on to quote researchers who have concerns about the quality of the sex as well.
I think there's a bigger problem that they've missed: the connection between physical intimacy and emotional intimacy to begin with. That fact that we see love primarily as a romantic connection between lovers, keeps intimacy from being part of less intense and exclusive relationships - even hookups. We've created a false dichotomy between true love and nothing at all to the extent that some people, so concerned to clarify their lack of romantic intention, end up acting like jerks to partners in a temporary encounter.
I think there's a bigger problem that they've missed: the connection between physical intimacy and emotional intimacy to begin with. That fact that we see love primarily as a romantic connection between lovers, keeps intimacy from being part of less intense and exclusive relationships - even hookups. We've created a false dichotomy between true love and nothing at all to the extent that some people, so concerned to clarify their lack of romantic intention, end up acting like jerks to partners in a temporary encounter.